Eric J. Broder

About Eric

I am often asked, “Why are you a divorce lawyer?” The answer – I get great satisfaction from seeing how well my clients are doing at the end of their case versus when we first met. Facilitating that transition and growth, while challenging, is the most gratifying part of my job. The follow-up question is often: “What prepared you most to be a Family Law attorney?” Ironically, the answer lies not in court but rather on a court – a tennis court!

Besides being a highly competitive tennis player throughout my life, I worked in various capacities as a tennis pro and in clay court maintenance. Little did I know that over thirty-five years ago, as a teenager and through college, spending my spring and summer days waking up at 5:00 a.m., rolling and sweeping har-tru tennis courts, carrying 50-pound bags of calcium chloride and clay, providing instruction to adults and children, and training for upcoming tournaments, that I would actually be learning how to become a Family Law attorney.

There are many similarities between a Family Law attorney and a competitive tennis player. First, preparation is key. Just as I endlessly practiced to hone and analyze every last minute detail of my strokes, it is necessary as a Family Law attorney to understand the details regarding my client’s wishes and desires, his/her unique situation, his/her spouse’s personality, and attitude, the strengths and weaknesses in positions, and the ramifications of the foregoing in light of the law. Second, being able to change strategies if your initial plan is faltering is the key to achieving a most favorable outcome. While preparing and counseling my client, I know that the other side is strategizing and preparing to take advantage of and expose weaknesses in my case. Accordingly, I prepare as though I represent the other side. Since I represent all different types of people, I have a tremendous advantage – as I often represent the “other side,” which provides me with a unique perspective, allowing me to effectively counsel my client best on how to proceed. Put simply, no one will outwork or outlast me.

Understanding conditions that impact a tennis match, such as weather, wind, and outside distractions, and managing to stay focused when there are other interruptions is crucial. This is why my tennis coach always made us practice in the most difficult of conditions, including on a court that was located off a busy street that shared a fence with a pool filled with children and an outdoor bar and grill. I had to stay focused and block out distractions, especially during swim meets and happy hour.

Similarly, the conditions in a courtroom can change at a moment’s notice. Notably, you often are not assigned a judge until the day of your trial. Further, there are always disruptions. People constantly coming in and out of the courtroom. Ten minutes recesses become forty minutes. Witnesses are taken out of order. Exhibits are not admitted into evidence. To be effective, you must adjust and stay disciplined, all while keeping the judge focused.

Having been involved in some of the most challenging and notable cases in Connecticut, I have learned how important it is to consult with other professionals to assist in the process. I have worked successfully with many therapists, accountants, business valuators, and attorneys in other practice areas (tax, real estate, criminal, and trust and estates) when it becomes necessary. As a Past-President of the Fairfield County Bar Association, I have had the opportunity to get to know the leading lawyers in each practice area.

Having significant experience as a trial lawyer has strengthened my belief that every divorce case should be settled. What people do not realize is that less than 5% of divorce cases go to trial. Of course, it is far more interesting to hear about the gory and gossipy details of a contested divorce in a social setting. However, that is, to great relief, the exception. The only time a case should go to trial is if the offer on the table from the other side represents something beyond the worst-case scenario. This is why it is absolutely necessary to honestly counsel my clients and cultivate their expectations based on my over twenty-five years of experience. I believe in being direct and honest with my clients. While I will always be supportive, I am not a cheerleader.

Most importantly, there is one major difference between a divorce court and a tennis court. If you are successful, you win your tennis match. There is no winning in divorce – at least not on the day of the divorce. You can judge how well you did in your divorce by looking at where you are personally, professionally, and most importantly, if relevant, how well your children are doing one to two years after the divorce is finalized. Is everyone adjusting well to the new schedule? Are you settled professionally? Have you rediscovered who you were before your marriage deteriorated? This all leads back to the most gratifying part of my job, hearing from clients a couple of years after the divorce where they share the success they have had in moving on – thanking my team and me for being there during one of the darkest, insecure and difficult periods in their lives.

Eric, The Professional

I grew up in Westchester County, New York, and attended college at Tulane University in New Orleans. It was there that I fell in love with the city’s culture, music, art, and of course, the food. It has been far too long since I graduated from college, but I make sure to visit New Orleans almost annually. I attended Temple Law School in Philadelphia, and after eating far too many cheesesteaks, I moved to New York City, where I had the opportunity to work with two highly respected and reputable trial lawyers. It was there that I was first exposed to the practice of Family Law, and when an opportunity to join Blank Rome, one of the largest and most prestigious family law firms in New York arose, I jumped on it. Ironically, I learned more about the law and being a family lawyer by eating lunch each day with the other attorneys than I did from any book. Their conversations about dealing with difficult cases, uncooperative lawyers, inconsistent judges, and the law as it evolved and changed were tremendous. The experience of working on some of the largest and most high-profile cases at the time provided me with an invaluable education

Having been admitted to practice law in Connecticut, I often attended court and worked on the firm’s Connecticut cases. After spending a great deal of time in Fairfield County, my wife and I decided to relocate from New York City to raise our family here. We have three children and our beloved dog and play an active role in our community. I have had the opportunity to coach my children’s baseball and soccer teams and even participate in a parent/child dance recital (no video available). Further, our youngest was born prematurely. As a result, we learned about Tiny Miracles – a charitable organization developed by parents of premature babies to offer comfort, support, guidance, and hope. After serving on the Board of Directors for years, I remain an active member of the Honorary Board. In my free time, I often play tennis, golf, go on hikes with our dog, and attend live music and sporting events.

Today I am a Co-Founding Member and Partner at Broder Orland Murray & DeMattie LLC. I have been selected as an AV Preeminent™ attorney by Martindale-Hubbell®, the highest possible rating in legal ability and ethical standards, earned through a strenuous peer and judicial review procedure. I have been designated a “Top Lawyer” in three categories: Arbitration and Mediation, Family Law, and Matrimonial Law in Westport, Greenwich, New Canaan/Darien, and Fairfield Magazines. I have been selected to the 2013-2025 Connecticut Super Lawyers® List in Family Law. Each year, no more than 5% of the lawyers in the state are selected to receive this honor; Super Lawyers Selection Process.

I have appeared as a legal commentator on NBC’s Today Show, News 12 Connecticut. I have been a guest on many nationally recognized Family Law related podcasts speaking on a variety of topics. I regularly speak to attorneys, accountants, financial professionals, therapists, and the general public on family and marital issues. I have lectured on numerous family law topics throughout my career to judges, other lawyers, accountants, financial professionals, therapists, physicians, and the general public. Further, I serve as a volunteer Special Master in the Family Divisions of the Stamford and Bridgeport Superior Courts and at the Regional Family Trial Docket for highly contested custody cases.

Fan Fact: During the 1990s, I served as a seat filler for a number of major national award shows, including the Grammy Awards, the ESPY Awards, the MTV Video Awards, and the VH1 Fashion Awards. When a celebrity was stage to present or perform, I would sit in their seat so when the camera would pan over the crowd, the front seats would always be filled. I had the opportunity to sit next to so many celebrities and athletes, including Madonna, Tina Turner, Elton John, Evander Holyfield, John Elway, Chris Berman, Dick Vitale, MC Hammer, Roger Penske, Sheryl Crow, Eric Clapton and many others. It was an incredibly unique experience to “rub elbows” and converse with many of the people I admired.

Distinctions, Honors and Awards

Martindale-Hubbell AV Preeminent rating™, 2013 – 2025
Connecticut Super Lawyers ® as listed in New England Super Lawyers ®, 2013 – 2025
Selected for recognition in the Best Lawyers® The Best Lawyers in America®
Selected as Top Lawyers in Fairfield County, Family Law, by Moffly Media Top Lawyer; Arbitration and Mediation, Family Law and Matrimonial Law in Westport, Greenwich, Stamford, New Canaan/Darien and Fairfield Magazines
Avvo Rating 10 out of 10
Selected for Lawyers of Distinction, Recognizing Excellence in Family Law

Professional Associations and Memberships

Fairfield County Bar Association, Past President
- Member of Family Law Section, 1998 – Present
- Has served:
  - On the Board of Directors
  - As a Co-Chair of the Family Law Section
  - On the Nominating Committee
  - On the Professionalism Symposium Committee
Fairfield County Bar Foundation Past President and Member
Connecticut Bar Association
- Past Two-Term Representative to the House of Delegates, District 3

Pro Bono Activities

Special Master, Middletown Superior Court
Special Master, Stamford Superior Court
Special Master, Bridgeport Superior Court

Bar Admissions

Connecticut, 1996
New York, 1996

Education

Temple University School of Law, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
- J.D. – 1995
Tulane University, New Orleans, Louisiana
- B.A. – 1992

Community Activities

The Tiny Miracles Foundation
Honorary Member of Board of Directors, 2018 – Present
Member of Board of Directors, 2012 – 2018
Member of Development Committee, 2013 – 2018
Member of Governance, Nominating Committee, 2013 – 2018
Member of The CEO Roundtable, 2013 – 2018
Congregation B’nai Israel Board of Trustees Member, 2018 – Present
Premier Travel Soccer Coach, 2014 – 2018
Little League Coach, 2007 – 2015
New York Mets Fantasy Camp Participant

Publications and Presentations

Martindale-Hubbell AV Preeminent rating™, since 2013
Selected for recognition in the Best Lawyers® The Best Lawyers in America®, since 2018
Connecticut Super Lawyers ® as listed in New England Super Lawyers ®, since 2013
Top Lawyers in Fairfield County, Family Law, by Moffly Media, 2021
Top Lawyer; Arbitration and Mediation, Family Law and Matrimonial Law in Westport, Greenwich, Stamford, New Canaan/Darien and Fairfield Magazines
Avvo Rating 10 out of 10

Past Employment Positions

Fitzmaurice & Siegel, Stamford, CT, 2002 – 2005
Blank Rome, LLP, New York, NY, 1998 – 2002

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