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Divorce Communication FAQs

January 13, 2022

Divorces are never an easy thing for anyone involved. Many divorces are riddled with emotional complications and difficult decisions, and the legal process itself can be difficult to navigate and can lead to confusion. During the divorce process, a lot of questions can arise regarding appropriate communications between divorcing spouses. Below is a list of common questions and answers about communicating during a divorce. 

If you’re going through a divorce and have questions about divorce and family law, it’s always best to consult a local divorce attorney such as the Greenwich, CT attorneys at Broder Orland Murray & DeMattie LLC. Their team of knowledgeable, experienced Connecticut lawyers can help you and correctly answer these and other questions.


“Can I talk to my spouse during a divorce?”

There are no legal restrictions preventing you from having discussions with your spouse while your divorce case is preceding unless there is a restraining order or order of protection that prohibits you from having contact. Obviously, if you have children, you most likely will, and should be communicating on a regular basis. Hopefully, your communications in front of the children will be kept civil and appropriate.  

“Can I email or text with my spouse during the divorce process?” 

If communicating electronically is easier and reduces the stress of a phone call or an in-person interaction, then by all means do so. However, it is extremely important to avoid making personal attacks in writing. A good rule of thumb is to assume a Judge is reading every email or text you are sending. 

“Are there issues which I should avoid discussing with my spouse during the divorce process?” 

If there are things you are uncomfortable discussing, particularly financial-related matters; refrain from doing so. Misunderstandings and misapprehension in these conversations can often raise the level of tension in a case unnecessarily. Utilize your lawyers for these conversations and negotiations. 

“What if I do not want to communicate with my spouse during the divorce process?”

There is no rule that says you must talk. If you do not want to communicate directly with your spouse, then I suggest having communications go through your lawyers.  Unfortunately, if every little item is discussed and negotiated between lawyers it can get quite costly for both parties. 

Remember, at the end of the day, your divorce lawyer is in your life for a very brief period. Especially, if you have children, no matter what the age, you and your spouse will have to be involved in decision making as well as hopefully attending many happy celebrations and functions in the future. Your behavior and actions during a divorce case will certainly linger.  People do not forget things said about them during a divorce. Accordingly, as difficult as it may be, do your best to try to get through the process in as amicable a fashion as possible. This will only benefit your children. 

If you need help navigating the divorce process, contact a Greenwich, CT divorce attorney such as Broder Orland Murray & DeMattie LLC to schedule a consultation.

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