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Is There Such A Thing As A Friendly Divorce?

July 31, 2023

Divorce can be incredibly difficult; however, there is no clear-cut reason as to why it can’t be friendly. 

Keeping your divorce as amicable as possible can be incredibly beneficial- as it lessens the emotional toll the process takes on all involved and the cost associated with divorce as a whole. Although this may be easier said than done, making an effort to keep things cordial can significantly impact the overall outcome of your case.

Why Is It Important To Keep It Friendly?

If you have children, it’s very important to keep it as friendly as possible because children at any age sense when there’s tension between their parents, and it is extremely difficult for any family going through a divorce. 

Additionally, the cost will be substantially less if your divorce is friendly from both an emotional and financial standpoint. It’ll go a lot smoother, take less time, it will be less contentious, and the cost will be less. The reality is that the parameters of how any case ends up in a divorce here in Connecticut are relatively narrow. Therefore, it doesn’t make much sense to be acrimonious in a divorce, as it is much more beneficial to all the parties if you can be friendly.

How Can We Keep Our Divorce Friendly?

It’s always best to start with the children’s issues because most of the time, even people who are divorcing have their kids’ best interests at heart. If you can find some commonality in agreeing on how you will handle your parenting plan with the kids, that’s usually a good launching point to have an amicable divorce.

Additionally, it’s essential that both parties develop a mindset at the beginning that we’re going to go into this, and even though our marriage didn’t work out, we’re going to do our best to keep it friendly. 

Lastly, it’s imperative that you choose your lawyers wisely. When you’re talking to a lawyer, and you’re figuring out whether they are a good match for you, and you want to keep the divorce amicable, then you want to find a lawyer who will buy into that and promote that kind of tenor in the divorce.

Will Hiring Lawyers Mean We Can’t Keep It Friendly?

Hiring lawyers does not mean you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse won’t be able to keep the divorce friendly. However, you must choose your lawyers carefully. They need to be experienced and dedicated to resolving the case amicably. Some cases just won’t be amicable, but if you’re really of the mindset that you want it to be amicable and you want it to be friendly, choose your lawyers wisely.

Is Litigation A Dirty Word?

Litigation is not a dirty word, it is simply a process, and it’s a process by which you hopefully get to a resolution. Litigation means you go through the process of finding out what we call “discovery information” that you need from the other side in order to come to a suitable resolution for your case. However, the process can still be very cooperative and often is, at least when we’re involved.

What Could A Friendly Divorce Look Like After The Case Is Over?

A friendly divorce could mean you communicate freely about the kids, which is undoubtedly crucial. Additionally, it could mean sometimes you attend functions and holidays together or sit together at kids’ events. Imagine what it feels like for a child to be up on the stage during a recital and to look out and see parents on opposite sides of the room versus sitting together for the performance.

Last but not least, if you’re friendly, there is a greater chance that you’ll be flexible on a schedule when it comes to a parenting plan. Things do change, so you want to ensure that you have the flexibility to accommodate each other’s schedules and the children’s schedules.

If you’re considering divorce, it’s highly advised that you seek experienced counsel. Contact us today to learn more about how we can assist you.

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